After a long break.....

I'm back.  Today I read a quote that goes: "Love is when you find someone who doesn't meet any of your standards and yet you still say, "Finally, I've found the right one."  Let me be bold in saying that this is a lie.  Love is not compromising your standards and letting go of all that you hoped to find in a spouse just because you found someone you lust after, or maybe this one likes you and you don't want to risk not finding someone else for a long time... both of which are common examples of what causes us to rethink our standards in the first place. Compromises are certainly a part of marriage but when it comes to our standards we should not be persuaded to toss them aside.  Maybe you don't want someone who yells.  It could be a lot of things, although there are certainly limits.  For instance, you may have a list of qualities your ideal spouse would possess that includes things like "he's great with cars", or "she always has painted toenails".  Some things, while a nice idea, are not crucial to a happy marriage.  On the other hand, there are things like "he/she respects and supports me", or "he/she controls their temper"... These are things we should hold on to.  A marriage is placed on the path of failure when one or both parties surrender their standards.